Why are you single?

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Permalink Reply by Harridan20 on June 12, 2012 at 10:40pm

Shannon,

That's the crux of religion, it builds a sense of togetherness and an uniformity that comforts people. It's like the Thinking Atheist says "Religion is easy. When you practice religion you can turn off you brain" (paraphrasing). I've met many religious people who've said to me that I need to just give my life to God so I don't have to worry anymore. One song that REALLY burns me up is Carrie Underwood's "Jesus Take the Wheel". She sings about a haggard single mom who is driving and her car slides on some ice. What are you suppose to do? Well, according her you're suppose to take your hands off the wheel and let God take over.

I think you are truly courageous! It's so hard being Atheist in itself. I've been experiencing a new kind of bias  because I don't want kids. I had a date this until he found out I didn't want kids. I'm the atheism had something to do with it.

Permalink Reply by Shannon Equality Barber on June 12, 2012 at 11:05pm

Thanks for thinking I am courageous. It was  hard, sure, but it seemed the natural path. The end of that path was when I did 3 1/2 years of research into world religions, and saw what a crock it's always been. I felt bitter, lied to. I haven't trusted my family since then. Never will, most likely, considering their stance on gays. I am currently writing a book about it all.

Yeah, that Jesus takes the wheel song is nuts. I am a die hard Idol fan, but when I hear the gazillion and one contestants sing that...I am like UGH! JUST STOP.

You are right, that is what religion is. That is why I have no issue with organized atheism. I don't see it as religion- I see it as offering what people are missing when they leave religion, without the harmful BS. After all I went through, I truly believe religious indoctrination to be child abuse, particularly with regards to LGBT kids. The number they do on us is beyond brutal. Growing up gay in an environment like that is flippin' nuts. Pure torture.

Permalink Reply by Shannon Equality Barber on June 12, 2012 at 11:21pm

If it makes you feel better, I don't want kids either. Nor do I buy into the whole "imitation heterosexual" style gay community that is put out there in an effort to gain legal equality. I understand the whole "just like them" stance in the political battle, but I also know it to be a lie. Gay life is a lot different from straight life. We spent our teenage years not exploring our dating/sexual identities like our straight counterparts, but usually enduring relentless bullying, taunts of "dyke" and "faggot," and pretending to be something we are not. As a result, our emotional development in that realm is behind that of the heterosexual community. To that end, gay life has a "forever young" feel to it, a la queer as folk, in many cases. Sure, many gay and lesbian couples want that suburban family life. However, there are those of us who want to live in gayborhoods through our 30's and even 40's, and do the club life thing. There is nothing wrong with that, and to promote the idea that it does not exist is false IMO. Necessary to achieve the goal, but false nonetheless.

Permalink Reply by Idaho Spud on June 13, 2012 at 7:44am

I agree with your dislike of "Jesus Take the Wheel".  It reminds me of a Mormon girl I dated when I was Mormon.  She criticized me for wearing a seat-belt.  She said if I had faith in God, I wouldn't wear a seat-belt.

Permalink Reply by Harridan20 on June 15, 2012 at 8:15pm

Idaho Spud,
I wonder how many foolish people tried this and it was successful.

Permalink Reply by Harridan20 on June 15, 2012 at 8:26pm

Idaho Spud,
Here is a funny yet chilly anecdote that happened at work today. I went to the bathroom (it's laughable how most of this stuff happens in there) and while I was in there I overheard a conversation between two coworkers. Both of the coworkers are deeply religious nonetheless the second one is MORE religious. She says "praise the lord" at EVERY single mundane event. Today they were discussing the first person's hypertension problem. The first one stated she was having problems with her medication. The second one claimed that she didn't trust ANY doctor's diagnosis. She goes to the lord for the answer instead of trusting a doctor's diagnosis. She thought that doctor's don't know much as the lord. The second one stated she tried to stop taking her blood pressure medication but had to resume it due to her blood pressure rising. The second one told her all she needed to do was PRAY on it! It's the freaking 21st century (I think) and people STILL believe that prayer is a reliable and powerful cure. This scares me because it's people like those two who infect people with their jargon and cause people to become more ill.

Permalink Reply by Idaho Spud on June 16, 2012 at 8:36am

Harridan20,

It scares me also.  If they would keep their stupidity to themselves, I would say great!  But, their infection of others eventually negatively impacts me and those I care about.

Permalink Reply by Shannon Equality Barber on June 16, 2012 at 8:38am

They should be in mental institutions. They sound like borderline faith healing believers. I've known people like that. They let people die before they trust a doctor in really extreme cases, including children.

Permalink Reply by David Philip Norris on June 16, 2012 at 12:01pm

I'd say let natural selection take care of it, but you're right: they're not just keeping their insane beliefs to themselves. They're proselytizing and encouraging others to adopt their anti-science and anti-reason attitude. And still this is considered "protected speech"!!

Permalink Reply by Harridan20 on June 12, 2012 at 11:42pm

Shannon,

It seems the childfree are reaching great numbers however so are the parents and the pressure. There is still a false belief that being childfree and single is easy. I'm often told that I couldn't possibly have that much to do because I don't kids.

Permalink Reply by Shannon Equality Barber on June 12, 2012 at 11:45pm

I am told I must have an easy life because I am single, have a degree, and have no kids. HA! I have an Associate's in IT. I am also obviously gay in SC, so my income is a series of freelance jobs while I try to move before my family remodels this house. I am under an enormous amount of pressure. 

I refuse to have kids. I don't want them, I don't like them, I don't need them. That doesn't mean I am carefree or irresponsible, though.

Permalink Reply by Lamar Berry on June 14, 2012 at 7:23pm

I've had trouble finding women that are ok with just sex. Then, some will say they're ok, but change their mind and want a relationship.

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