Methis, by fessing up about your "visual" standards you are displaying honesty, which is a trait far too uncommon in our society. My visual/physical standards determine the amount of sexual stimulation I experience. Intellect only gets me part way. I have had tons of great lovers with insufficient intellect to create a relationship to my satisfaction. I have had only 2-3 intellectuals who've allowed me sexual satisfaction, all the other intellectual potentials were sexual catastrophes.