I don't smoke, but it is a personal choice that I made. It has nothing to do with atheism. Lots of those lying christians smoke and tell you that Jebus took away their habit.
Non smoking/drugging atheist here, not even fond of drinking much.
Shame that we have that image, though: Oh they're not religious, therefore they must be hedonists!
I am sorry. But I really don't understand at all what you are going on about, except your bemoaning your dificulties finding a suitable female atheist mate.
Yeah, I imagine that is rough. I remember long ago finding it difficult to find a suitable female partner , And at t time I was not even restricting my search to nontheists women's. Eliminating 90% of potential prospects would make things way more difficult I imagine.
Otherwise you seem to be wondering why some people seem to enjoy doing enjoyable activities. Its because they enjoy doing so. Why wouldn't we. Its like asking why people have sex or eat ice cream.
Well, I don't smoke or break the law. Trust me, you don't need a religious girlfriend. She'll try to "reform" you back to church.
Your post seems to suggest that all female atheists smoke and break law by smoking pot.