I'm new to this site, so I apologize ahead of time if this topic is repetitive.
About a month ago, a close family member of mine passed away after a four year battle with cancer. She was diagnosed at age 37, and despite all the prayers for her, she finally gave up the fight.
Having been raised Catholic, I rejected the religion entirely by the age of 15, and from that point on, I remained on the fence about the existence of a god - until about a month ago when my cousin died. The hardest part for me was during the last visit that I had with her, when I finally had the chance to talk to her one on one. She told me point blank, "I don't want to go yet. I'm not ready to die yet." Despite her incredible will to live, it wasn't enough.
Losing her made me reevaluate everything I thought I believed in in terms of a god or the afterlife, and I've since come to the conclusion that it's all a bunch of fairy tale, hocus pocus nonsense, and it is precisely the reason I finally jumped off the fence I'd been sitting on about god, and finally embraced atheism. Not only was this decision because of my cousin's death, but because atheism just makes more sense.
The religious people out there try to convince me of this divine master plan that "God" has in store for her, that he needed her in heaven and blah, blah, blah. All I can do is stare at them, absolutely baffled as to how anyone could be so deluded. How long are people going to keep making excuses for this so-called god, trying so desperately to make sense of the senseless?
I still haven't come out of the atheist closet to my family, and I don't know if that would be the best idea at this time. However, I believe that I will at some point in the future,
Part of my question also is whether or not any of you have switched to atheism after the death of a loved one? Something tells me I'm not alone here, so I'd love to hear what anyone else has to say. Thank you.
Dan Barker is co-president of FFRF (Freedom From Religion Foundation) and was a fundamentalist minister for many years. He openly admits that people get emotional and feel their skin crawl with goosebumps, but none of this is proof that religion is real! You can even get these feelings as an atheist, but it proves nothing about god or theist views being correct.
I never found the promised joy of religion, but being a theist most of my life had the promise of "pie in the sky." You couldn't go to heaven unless you died, and that was the only way to be with god, so loved ones who had died are achieving the goal. It was hard to drop religion just because family members died, or because uncle Charlie had more money that you did.
The theist is asleep all the time though. You realize that you are waking up when you stand next to the grave with a group of people and understand that the dead body is lowered into the ground while someone in the group is telling you that the dead one is in heaven now. It doesn't compute! It makes as much sense to shoot Jack with a handgun and tell everyone that he went to the store to buy candy.
Maybe we even have so many "christian" murderers because they have helped the deceased out. By killing them, they have helped the deceased to "go to heaven" so it's really no big deal. Religion is one great big disease and sometimes believers go off the deep end.
I heard Catholic priests say they celebrated a fellow priest's death.
They said a deceased priest had gone to where all his life he'd wanted to go.
I ask, "Where were their deceased pedophiles?"