I've been to wedding ceremonies where the couple light a unity candle from their two separate candles. It makes a HUGE difference in the symbolism whether the individuals' candles are extinguished or left lit.
(BTW, spouses sincerely complimenting each other doesn't hurt a relationship either! :-)
complimenting each other is different from losing yourself while in the relationship. there are people forget themselves while in the relationship. i dont want that kind of situation that's why i want a person who is mature and intelligent at the same time if i had a boyfriend or husband someday.
Wow. My first wife wanted a candle-lighting as a part of the ceremony ... with the two individual tallows EXTINGUISHED after. I waved that off, even as unresolved as I was back then ... and I'm not sorry.
I shouldn't have to change or lose myself because of a relationship with someone else ... and THEY shouldn't have to change for me!
A relationship and "love" is a decission. Your choice will remain but emotions change.
I tend to agree Dennis! I got married at age 20, and now I'm 46. We started dating when I was 16. I was a baby!!!! Went through a few rough patches, but now, with our kids grown (although right now they are both still living here) I think it's really been a decision that we have had a nice life, and there is no reason to not stay together. We each do our own thing, sometimes we do things together, and it is comfortable too. I don't mean we don't love each other, but I'm certainly not willing to give this up to just go out and look for the excitement of a new relationship.