I think we older folks (I'm 67) get more set in our ways, or, as my very unsainted mother said, "A leopard doesn't change its spots; it just gets bigger ones."
I'm a much rantier, nastier, vocal atheist than I was at 20.
Oh well, so much for 'in-real-life friends'... there's always the virtual world! (kidding)
I'm having a hard time, myself, with somebody I'm close with but unable to communicate with on many of the subjects I find near-and-dear to me: evolution, humanism, progressive politics, etc. So there's a distance between us. We're not so close afterall. After three years.
And it is taking on a kind of 'avoidance' character... where I don't feel completely honest or open. This can't be emotionally healthy.
I'm finding myself numbering this person's faults (he quietly prays to himself before he eats at restaurants) instead of recalling and focusing on his good traits (the most generous person I've ever met) and accepting him for what he is (a Republican) and respecting his 'differences' (Christian). I'm right in the middle of that gray area of of a relationship: 'settling' or 'moving on'. It is making me question my ability to be close to people who don't think like I do....it's not something I'm proud of! Like you, booklover, I will say something one day and it won't be pretty: "Seriously, you're thanking god for THIS meal??". I can see it coming. My mocking and sarcasm can only be held back for so long. I think there is resentment building that we never talk about religion or 'conflict-laden' subjects like politics.
I watched the news about the thousands of babies dying in East Africa and their Moms burying them in shallow graves on the way to the camps they were going to to try and get food and safety. Then my friends daughter thanks 'god' for watching-over her baby son when he came through an injury to his brain. REALLY??? Thank the DOCTORS AND NURSES AND MODERN TECHNOLOGY!!!!! Does 'god' only watch-over white, christian babies in America and doesn't give a damn about the innocent babies in Africa? People are so dumb I can't stand it sometimes. I AM angry. I can't deal with comments like this anymore. Time for me to get off Facebook??? LOL