Thanks Spud, I think you're nice too! Believe me, not everybody thinks I'm so nice! ha ha. If anyone has ever been mean to my kids, they have seen how not nice I can be! Also, unforgiving. I have never been able to forgive anyone for being mean to my kids. Ever. I guess I'm overprotective, but, that's who and what I am. I am always nice until someone is not nice first. Then I can be mean too. I am working on it, but I do have a temper. I agree with you on the not paying attention to someone who is intelligent, but not nice. I'm not going to listen to that.
I have no problem with someone responding to being attacked.
When I say being nice I do not mean being submissive or forgiving everything. I do not mean being a yes-man.
See Spud, now you said that WAY better than I did! You are right. I do think I could maybe try putting myself in someone elses shoes occasionally if they are being nasty. I tend to get mad quickly. I need to step back sometimes, and see if what is happening warrants my anger.
When I was younger, I was way more diplomatic. Now I don't take crap. LOL