Preschoolers Performing Oral Sex (at Lutheran School)

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Permalink Reply by Secular Forces 2013 on February 10, 2013 at 8:24am

wow that's fubar!

“Surely the church community would not be pleased to hear the deacon likening a 5-year-old girl to a prostitute.”

Mouth-to-genital contact, however, is not normal among preschoolers. Did the kids at the Carson School know that? Probably not.

“Children at this age don’t comprehend what they’re doing, except that they’re playing with private parts that they’ve been told to keep private,” says Elkind. “As long as they don’t see it as traumatic, it’s unlikely that they would have lifelong side effects.”

Problems can arise, though, when adults sexualize the activity, thrusting their own preconceived notions or anxieties on the children. Parents’ strong reactions may lead to “overdramatizing everything in the child’s mind,” according to Elkind.

The father of one of the children who allegedly received oral sex from a girl in the bathroom, voiced his anger over the incident when he broke the story toABC News. “He told me about all the bad things that girl had been doing to him,” the dad said. “I just had to keep yelling in his ear, ‘You’re not in trouble, you’re not in trouble!’ And I just told him, ‘You’re never coming back here again for these people to do this to you.’”

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