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Permalink Reply by Scot68 on October 10, 2011 at 10:03pm

They are wishing her well, so a nice thing to say is simply thank you. Very nice of them to collect the money for you, and I'm sorry to hear about your daughter, though I won't pray for her or for you, you have my sympathy. One of my cousins had a stillborn boy. It is hard.

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Permalink Reply by Nerdlass on October 10, 2011 at 11:16pm

This is true. I think that's why many people here in Japan are grateful for prayers sent their way from the world, even though a huge percentage of them don't believe in god. It's more of a sentiment. Sure, it doesn't do anything, really, but it does show that people, being social animals, want to reach out the ways they know they can. You said they'd previously gave you a money gift to help with your daughter's burial. Prayer alone--we can roll our eyes at that. If it's backed up by sincerity or actual help, then just consider it a sentiment.

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Permalink Reply by roland707 on October 11, 2011 at 8:50am

Thanks guys. I feel the same way, pretty much. It's just always awkward for me at the moment they do it.

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Permalink Reply by NYheathen on October 11, 2011 at 9:26am

I'm sorry about you MIL.  Hope she can kick its butt.  Yeah, I would just say, "thanks, I will let her know".

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Permalink Reply by Monica S. on October 11, 2011 at 3:16pm

I still say thank you. I had folks tell me they were praying for me last week(surgery to remove Gunther the gallbladder) so I just said thank you. Instead of me seeing it as them trying to be pushy(as I have in other cases) I saw it as them really wanting to be helpful and kind but not have a clue on what to do. 

 

And having that thought as you go under, that folks are thinking about you and worried for you(or your loved one's wellbeing), is a kind of sweet thing. 

And I am sorry about the loss of your daughter. That is pretty hard on anyone(my cousin lost her son in uteru..long story). 

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Permalink Reply by Regina M on October 24, 2011 at 1:08pm

This is a tough one when applied to oneself, but in the case of your MIL, I think a response along the lines of "I will tell her. She'll appreciate it," or something along those lines would be just fine.

 

I hate this stuff. A friend of my parents who goes to the same church as they do (and does not know about my personal beliefs) walks by my workplace on his way to work and told me a couple weeks ago that when he sees my car (bright yellow, hard to miss) he prays for me as he walks along. I think I said something moronic like "every little bit helps!" or some such silliness. *face palm* I have yet to come up with an appropriate response to this dilemma that doesn't require an armed escort post-communication.

 

By the way, I send my well-wishes. No prayers.

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Permalink Reply by Michael Tiffany on October 24, 2011 at 6:27pm

I know it's not going to do any good, and you know it's not going to do any good, but if this prayer list gives these people a way of expressing their concern and compassion for a fellow human being in need, be grateful and say "Thank you for caring and showing your support for my mother-in-law. I know she will be comforted by your prayers."

Praying for the recovery of the sick is the sort of behavior we ought to encourage among believers, rather than, you know, cheering someone's demise if they're uninsured...

 

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Permalink Reply by Steph S. on October 25, 2011 at 8:44am

I agree with Michael. Just say thank you.

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Permalink Reply by booklover on October 25, 2011 at 8:48am

Yep.  I agree with Michael and Steph. 

 

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Permalink Reply by roland707 on October 25, 2011 at 9:15am

Thanks everybody. I agree with you guys.

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Permalink Reply by Tom on November 27, 2011 at 11:19pm

I hope your MIL beat it, and/or is comfortable.

A possible reply:

"Thanks for the thoughts, but if you want to help my MIL and others like her, please take up a collection for the American Cancer Society." - and hand them a donation envelope.

https://www.cancer.org/Involved/Donate/PersonalFundraising/index

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on November 28, 2011 at 1:07am

I'm sorry about your MIL and the loss of your daughter.  I agree with both Michael and Steph on this issue. As a 3 time cancer survivor myself, I know she is in for a battle.

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