Not counting the first 8 years (blame those on my parents - when I could think rationally I did), I have been a life-long atheist. I put that right in my profile ALWAYS. So why is it almost every message I get is from someone who claims to be an xtian? I understand it from the people who just message me with a "hi" or a "let's hook up" (they can't read big words), but from people who have an otherwise nice and interesting profile or people who obviosly read mine thoroughly..I just don't get it.
If your profile says "Christian and quite serious about it" why would you try to date an "atheist and quite serious about it"?
Do they really think they could convert me this late in the game?
Xtians make no sense to me..
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For some reason the post above only had one word.....oops!!
What I meant to say was, Hey Joseph!!! And nope, not trying to attract theists of any kind, and you already know why the theist thing doesn't work for me. You have defended me on other threads. I'm not an atheist snob. Just learned some really painful lessons....<sigh>
Yup, same here. I have theistic friends. In a romantic relationship, it's just not happening.
I've also described, in other threads, several relationships which started with a girl who was fine with my atheism ... only to end with someone who wondered why I didn't want to go to church with her. My pattern recognition skills may be a little deficient, but they don't suck that badly.
That's good, man. It's good to hear that you're coming around.
Even if it's the case that this particular girl is religious and won't work for you, long-term ... I wasn't thinking from the perspective of you and girls. You can use the social interaction, first.
Well, also, I wasn't thinking that you would be thinking along those lines, of pursing girls for social interaction, instead of just sex. Hell, the statements I made a few months back still apply. Even if this girl isn't a good match, romantically, you need the time to acclimate yourself to female company ... and then she may know some girls who are less religious and would like you, after this first one civilizes you a bit.
As for the stereotype about guys only being out for sex? Well, it's a stereotype because half of the time it is true, with many stereotypes. Not that I've done a statistical analysis or anything.
If it's not a majority, but the minority that fit the stereotype are visible enough, that can be considered good foundation for a stereotype as well.
Now, after we introduce you to girls, we should introduce you to Mr. Paragraph. :-D
I don't know about you, but in my experience, there ARE lots of people trollin for sex. At this point in the game for me, I'm 41, educated and set in my ways. There is NO way sex would ever be enough to make the sex good....Let me explain. I happen to think your idea of friends first, is spot on. It's all the good stuff that leads up to that intimacy that makes it interesting for me. What I mean about not compatible, is CORE ISSUES. If someone is racist or anti gay rights, then we would NEVER get along. On the same lines I fall about religion. I was raised catholic so I TOTALLY get the guilted sex thing. Even though I'm not saddled down with the religious consequences that go along with the sex outside of marriage thing, I have had it put into my mind since childhood that it's my job as a girl, to not allow men to have sex with me, and then when I do, it's only to be for pro-creation, and certainly not to be enjoyed. That kind of indoctrination from an early age, can leave you with issues for sure!!! I'm not going to lie. I've struggled with it earlier in my life. Now, I wonder if it might play a huge role in how fussy I am about finding a potential mate? Hmmmm....Maybe not....maybe it's because I'm divorced 2 times and don't trust myself??
Oh well....guess we just muddle through this thing the best we can, and hope we meet someone who rocks our world! (And can handle us ;)