Suppose I might as well join the convent.
I've dated for beliefs, common interest, I've dated for looks, I've settled for the 'sweet ones'... recently tried having a relationship with a someone that I now realize I will only ever see as a nice friend, but we're completely incompatible as far as that spark goes.
So, I am left single, sexually frustrated, and now with an awkward friendship.
I've tried just finding someone for sex, it's not exactly hard to do... but I need more of a connection I suppose, and it's difficult to find. I am not waiting on 'perfect', I'm waiting on someone who can see me perfectly, and accept me and I them.
Preferably atheist of course. Someone who might like to read with me, catch a movie, or if I ever find a decent one in this black hole of the bible belt... attend a decent comedy club? lol, I miss certain activities from Dallas, the dates here seem far less adventurous. Or just a walk while we talk and get to know one another.
I need a slightly geeky guy, with a good sense of humor, who can handle a bit of sarcasm from time to time, and put up with my INTJ qualities... I'm young, but it doesn't take the sting of being completely alone away either really.
So, while I may not be avidly searching, I'm still hopeful I'll come across someone.
I TOTALLY feel your pain Laura!! I live in TN which I call the butt hole of the buy bull belt....plus I am in an extremely challenged age group....40's. You seem to have your head on straight, and I'm loving your optimism!!! Smart girl like you WILL find the one I'm certain of it. My best advise to you, is keep your eyes and your heart open. I know how hard it is to find someone you are attracted to, who gets you, AND who shares your non belief. Know you aren't completely alone. There are lots of us out there, just like you, who would choose being alone before we would put ourselves into a relationship that is damaging and ultimately a train wreck.
I have found that a lot of people on here have used a date website that seems to give good results when searching out like minded individual. It's OKCupid.com. You can specifically search out atheist or agnostic matches. I have actually been out on a few good dates! Maybe give it a try??? Hey, what have you got to lose? Good luck doll!!! I'm loving my fellow female atheists!!! You bitches rock!!
She owns her own business. Moving is difficult, when you have an established customer-base.
I get the impression that she's discovered online dating and has mostly found Christian idiots who 'don't mind' her atheism ... which is not the meeting of minds that you normally look for, in a serious relationship.