Oh, I get it Phil.....I've been right where you are, except my ex husband didn't wait til we were divorced to start his male whore sex life and is still shocked I walked away because they didn't mean anything. First thing you need to do, is tell your ex that you don't care to discuss sex with her, and if it keeps fucking you up, maybe you should just not talk to her at all. It seems harsh, but at some point, you need to let go of any connection with her, so you can heal and move on. I know this from personal experience. I finally put a stop to talking to the ex. I was immediately in a better place. If she cares for you at all, she will understand. Best of luck!!! Sorry you are in the order of celibate atheists, but you are in good company!
How does casual sex demean sex???????????? I've had casual sex most of my life, I like it better than relationship sex. In relationships people take things for granted, with casual sex you can go full out and give it your all.
Casual sex is the glorification of sex, it's great, you really ought to try it :)
Hey I'm not ever going to say what's good for me should be good for you! It's just not how I roll. I've just found that for me, I have to share way more than casual sexual feelings with someone in order for it to be satisfying to me. I have often envied those that can do the sex for sport thing! Everyone is different and I don't think someone who enjoys casual sex is wrong in any way period. I'm just saying, I'm 41 years old, and being with someone in that way for me, is about more than a sexual act, and there are many things that contribute to me having sexual feelings about a guy, and it's about way more than a physical attraction. But again, that is only me. I think if you enjoy it, you should go out and get your groove on!!! Have fun, be safe....because we ALL know you won't go to hell ;)~
Sex for sport would be like saying enjoying a massage "for sport". It is much more. Casual sex need not be sporty and vacuous, it can be fully 'involved' and caring and loving...
Notice my response was to Philip's calling it "demeaning"...
During the act of casual sex only morons "demean" sex by not giving respect to their partners, no matter how short the partnership. In addition, I've also seen people not respect their long-term partners.
Duration of the partnership has little impact on its quality :)