This is WAAAAY later, but . . . . I agree with you.
I think we atheists tend to fall into the trap of knowing we are right and not attempting to "bridge this gap" by empathising with our opposition.
In changing a person's perspective, in a counselling context, the therapist MUST initially gain the trust and respect of the client they are addressing. When that occurs, the client is ready to look honestly at the validity of their existing stance. They dare to appraise an alternative view and they have more courage to redefine their stance based on that experience. This concept is based on psychological constants, and it WORKS.
The first necessary step is to "always define your terms". The next is to accept that your baselines are different, but that neither is judged to be inferior. Finally, you concede as much as you possibly can, to the benefit of your opponent. Then you respectfully offer your own view, presented skillfully, with credible logic.
I have had significant results in being this way with christians and muslims alike, and I believe it is the best way to spread our truth.