My dad hates me... for not believing in God.

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Permalink Reply by Ann N. on November 3, 2011 at 11:13am

Yes, I suspect the people who object the most ferociously to atheism are those with nagging doubts about their own religion.

I've heard the advice that everything can and should be talked out, but it's not true. I have my own issues with my father and we once sat down to work them out and it was a disaster. I felt I had been mispercieved as this rebel troublemaker my whole childhood, when the complaints against me were terribly minor, literally at the level of grammatical mistakes. Graded on a curve that includes most people, I would have been considered a goody-two-shoes. Our heart-to-heart talk began with my Dad once again listing of all my minor deficiencies. He said, "You could so easily have changed and made us happy, but you didn't try." I realized it was hopeless. He's not going to suddenly wake up and realize he was wrong. I've heard similar stories since from other people. A reconciliation may or may not happen.  It is what it is. Go on and be happy without your dad. At least you have your mom and grandparents. Don't let him take those away from you. Stay strong!

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on November 27, 2011 at 8:38am

Been there done that.  My uncle has a arrest warrant out for me in Denver for the foolish reason.

 

I am a threat to myself because I refuse to go to church and the fact I was not raised in church.

 

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Permalink Reply by Prog Rock Girl on November 27, 2011 at 9:04am

WHAT?!

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on November 27, 2011 at 9:20am

Yep.  If I am ever caught in Colorado I am to be arrested. 

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on April 2, 2012 at 8:55pm

It's official.  My uncle has convinced the probate court to have me picked up as soon as I arrive in Colorado and so that I can be transported to a cell and held for 72 hours.

This is a fool that believes in Hitler's final decision and the great Jewish conspiracy and wears women 's clothes, stalk people and I am the crazy one?

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Permalink Reply by Jedi Wanderer on April 29, 2012 at 8:21pm

You might want to approach the ACLU or the American Atheists or whatever groups there are out there who defend religious freedoms about this nonsense. There is no way they could actually arrest you for not going to church.

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Permalink Reply by Prog Rock Girl on November 27, 2011 at 9:06am

Stick with the people who still like you for who you are. They know that they can still love a person even if they don't like or agree with everything about them (atheism). What do they think of the feud between you and your dad and can they stick up for you?

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on November 27, 2011 at 9:35am

You have to live your life as you see fit.  I can tell by your post that if you continue with this relationship with your dad, you'll end up more miserable.  I suggest that you back away from your dad for awhile and let things cool down.  Be there for him if there is an illness or a family crisis.  Be true to yourself and that is the important item at this time.

 

By coming out, in his eyes, this is a symbol of a parental failure.  You can't please everyone.

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Permalink Reply by Regina Goodwin on November 27, 2011 at 9:35am

My I suggest the book "The Atheist Bible?"

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Permalink Reply by David W on November 27, 2011 at 10:51am

When it comes to religious family members, you will most likely never get them to see your views as nothing more than an insult to theirs. My views differ from those of my family and we all know it but we do not discuss it. Nothing good could come from it. No one can hurt you quite like family can. 

I don't have any advice other than live your life for you.

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Permalink Reply by Allena Weber on November 27, 2011 at 11:55am

That is so sad.It's his loss.Some people are just hateful.

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Permalink Reply by Apeman Jim on December 9, 2011 at 9:44pm

There is often a price for standing up for yourself and not being forced to be someone you are not, but not as great as the price you pay for relenting. 

Love and friendship will not require you to change who you are, but encourage you to grow.

Most likely, your father does not hate you but fears what you represent... but he may gain courage over time.

Stay courageous, dear sister.  We are all part of the human family here.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-j8ZMMuu7MU

 

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