Wow, this really took off without me!
I'm sorry it seems like I ditched you all -- I promise I did no such thing! My Internet wasn't being agreeable, you see...
Fine, fine. You?
Doing good Maia.
“Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.”
W. Clement Stone
“Integrity is doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching.”
Right! Be true to yourself! You know when you behave badly, even when no one is watching.
“There is no such thing as a minor lapse of integrity”
Your Word is Your Bond
"I’ve always believed that your word is your bond.
Looking someone in the eye, telling them you are going to do something and shaking their hand is as good as a contract. Sure, I know that doesn’t hold up in court and in today’s world those handshakes are happening via e-mail and other electronic mediums it is a whole other ball of wax.
But, even though it is different, it is still important. Perhaps even more so because the Internet never forgets.
Unfortunately, I was reminded of this yesterday when a company that I took several hours out of a very busy schedule at an event to help with a marketing program of theirs, backed out of what they promised me.
Not only did they leverage my name, reputation and valuable time for their benefit, but in the end it was a complete one sided relationship where they got plenty out of it and all I was left with was frustration and a complete distrust of everyone involved with them and their company.
I do a lot of things for free. I enjoy helping people. I like taking part in fun initiatives when they present themselves.
My time is extremely valuable. Everyone should protect their time as one of their most valuable assets since it is the one thing you can never get more of.
But, because of this incident I’m certainly going to be more careful about who and what I agree to work with. Being taken advantage of never feels good and none of us should have to stand for it.
Make sure that you stand by your word. Yes, we all make mistakes and when they happen appologize and move forward to fix the situation. Don’t appologize and you can be sure that you’ll be labeled as someone not to work with and trust me when I say that word gets around very quickly when this happens.
Maybe it is small town of me, but if you can’t stand behind your word and be a good human in the process, than I’ve got no desire to help you out in any way.
I only want to work with good people, doing great things and who value my time.
Life is too short to be an asshat. Be a good person. I promise it’ll be more fun."
I thought I'd share this wonderful article.
Great article! Good advice.
Jonathan you are very unique, I agree.
@ Steph and Jonathan - I still get my feelings hurt when people don't keep their word, or show up on time for a special event because I'm always early and always try to help. I know I shouldn't take it personally, but I do, it's as if they're insinuating that my time and expectations are not as valuable as theirs. I think I'm old fashioned and set my expectations too high, but honestly, how hard is it to show up on time when someone invites you over to eat, or sets a lunch date with you? I've taken to the habit of going ahead and eating without them rather than waiting if there's a group of us for dinner or lunch, I don't say anything to them anymore unless they make a smarmy comment, it's a waste of breath.
I wish I could say this only happens with family, you can half expect them to be rude to you, but unfortunately business acquaintances and friends act this way, they're all 'special snowflakes' dontcha know and don't even get me started on the freaking cell phone at the table!