Just a simple question. Why does it seem women these days are drawn to the Homer Simpsons of the world?

Now for my rant....

I'm tired of the idea that just because I am a shorter guy I have to work harder to gain the affections of the same woman as the taller guy eventhough he's nowhere near as intelligent, more of an asshole, and can't possibly treat you as well as I can.

I'm tired of being the good listener for my female friends and being the damned boyfriend substitute everytime they have an argument over something she has been known that he was going to screw up. I'm tired of being lied to with this crap about I want my "man" to also be my best friend, because seriously if that were true male and female friends would hook up all the time. But it don't happen because 99% of the time the female in that situation doesn't or is too scared it's going to damage the friendship eventhough he is for her the "perfect" guy.

I'm tired of getting phone calls at 2am to talk about the problems you are having with your boyfriend but you don't have the stones or the backbone to leave that piece of shit. I'm tired of you asking me my opinion on guys or who you should date, like I said eventhough the elephant in the room is that we should date eachother.

I am tired of having carnal knowledge of all your likes and dislikes and everything you, but somehow this jackass your fucking has no clue and he gets all the glory when I'm doing all the shit work by listening to your problems and fixing your relationship with him.

I'm sick of going shopping with you to pick out lingere for you that I will never get to see you in, EVER. I'm also pissed at myself for letting you get that damned comfortable with me in the first place, but that's no excuse for you crossing that line with no intention of letting me cash in those chips.

I'm tired of hearing about how your whoring with all the guys around town, and being completely left out of that.

But most of all I am tired of you sending me mixed fucking messages about the boundaries of our relationship. Seriously, it is not cool to get in bed with me lay next to me just because you want to be held or feel lonely...and then on top of that expect nature not to kick in ever and for me to think something else completely and you get all bent out of shape about it.

I am not your gay friend. It is complete friendly castration to get in bed with a straight guy, your not related too, and it's not a life and death situation to spoon with you.

Your my friend, but your a fucking tease and I hate you secretly.

Tags: complaints, gripes, love, sucks

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As opposed to them throwing themselves at you? Either demonstrates absence of respect for oneself and for the other.
No, as opposed to try and be a little friendly once in a while. I'm not asking for them to throw themselves at me, hell I wouldn't like all the sudden attention, but how can you expect me to have a clear perception of girls, if every one I've ever come across was so stuck up into herself that she doesn't talk unless spoken to?
One thing to consider here, Sebastian, is that there are a few women in this conversation. How did it make you feel to talk to us? Even after all that you have shared, we did not leave, and perhaps you have learned something?
I don't know you or any girl here in real life, I don't know what your real reaction to this is. As far as I know, from experience, girls will avoid guys who have problems like this, then crawl to their men, or indeed, people like good ol' Dre here to state all their problems and feel better.

This is the perception my experience has provided.
As far as I know, from experience, girls will avoid guys who have problems like this...

Makes sense doesn't it? Wouldn't you avoid a girl that says she hates men?
I was talking about life problems in general.

But no, I wouldn't avoid girls like that.
I don't know what your real reaction to this is. As far as I know, from experience, girls will avoid guys who have problems like this, then crawl to their men, or indeed, people like good ol' Dre here to state all their problems and feel better.

Firstly, you're assuming we aren't telling you the truth...Secondly, "crawl?" Really? And if they're ignoring you, they don't consider you a problem to "crawl to their men to." And if I were in a space in which some of the guys only talked to other guys and didn't acknowledge me even though I acknowledge them, I would start ignoring them; they demonstrate a certain pride I refuse to dignify.

Do you travel? Do you spend time around people not from your island? Do you study other cultures? You have proof in front of you that your sweeping generalisations aren't true, and more importantly you have the opportunity to open your worldview by learning something from everyone who responded to you.
"And if I were in a space in which some of the guys only talked to other guys and didn't acknowledge me even though I acknowledge them, I would start ignoring them; they demonstrate a certain pride I refuse to dignify."

Isn't that what I'm doing for the same reason?


Travel? Quite fond of it although I've never done it as much as I want to. I've been to Italy and sicily, england, czech republic, belgium and egypt, I do enjoy other cultures but I don't see how this has any relevance with the current topic. I am culturally very open minded. I can't spend time with people not on my island, I live here.

I don't have proof of that I've got people telling me that and as assuring as their claims sound I've never sensed it, thus I can't decide if what I'm told is legit, or just a bias provoked in defense to my accusations.

Even guys I know in RL tell me the same thing you do. But almost every one of my friends who is in a relationship somewhat submits to his girl's every will while she acts like a prude. Perhaps it's just the culture here, but what can I do.
They won't talk to you unless you talk to them.

That's not always pride. There are cultural factors that come into play and many different personality types. Also, if you're projecting negativity, girls will pick up on this. It sounds like you have a lot of work to do on yourself. You're to be commended for making the effort. Once you've gained more peace with yourself and honestly examined the reasons for your hatred of women, you will be in a much better position to attempt a relationship. I notice that you mention not wanting to be judged. You want to be understood. That's healthy. Apply that same treatment you desire for yourself to the women you meet and you may be pleasantly surprised by how kind and worthy of respect you'll find them to be. I'm not sure what've you been through to get where you are, but know that you can overcome it.
So in other words I need to work up some hypothetical rank to reach the bounty on top? I don't like being a slave.
Working on yourself and healing open wounds isn't slavery, it's liberation. You're already chained to something from your past. Nate's suggestions free you from that.
But even if I do that, isn't it a cultural factors that a guy must make all the moves? I've never heard of a girl lifting a finger to upstart a relationship.

It's the guy that must ask, it's the guy that must pay, it's the guy that must pretend to take interest in her problems, and it's finally the guy that must propose. This is my problem, why should I want to be in a relationship that was not built on equal contribution?

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