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LOVE SUCKS

Just a simple question. Why does it seem women these days are drawn to the Homer Simpsons of the world?

Now for my rant....

I'm tired of the idea that just because I am a shorter guy I have to work harder to gain the affections of the same woman as the taller guy eventhough he's nowhere near as intelligent, more of an asshole, and can't possibly treat you as well as I can.

I'm tired of being the good listener for my female friends and being the damned boyfriend substitute everytime they have an argument over something she has been known that he was going to screw up. I'm tired of being lied to with this crap about I want my "man" to also be my best friend, because seriously if that were true male and female friends would hook up all the time. But it don't happen because 99% of the time the female in that situation doesn't or is too scared it's going to damage the friendship eventhough he is for her the "perfect" guy.

I'm tired of getting phone calls at 2am to talk about the problems you are having with your boyfriend but you don't have the stones or the backbone to leave that piece of shit. I'm tired of you asking me my opinion on guys or who you should date, like I said eventhough the elephant in the room is that we should date eachother.

I am tired of having carnal knowledge of all your likes and dislikes and everything you, but somehow this jackass your fucking has no clue and he gets all the glory when I'm doing all the shit work by listening to your problems and fixing your relationship with him.

I'm sick of going shopping with you to pick out lingere for you that I will never get to see you in, EVER. I'm also pissed at myself for letting you get that damned comfortable with me in the first place, but that's no excuse for you crossing that line with no intention of letting me cash in those chips.

I'm tired of hearing about how your whoring with all the guys around town, and being completely left out of that.

But most of all I am tired of you sending me mixed fucking messages about the boundaries of our relationship. Seriously, it is not cool to get in bed with me lay next to me just because you want to be held or feel lonely...and then on top of that expect nature not to kick in ever and for me to think something else completely and you get all bent out of shape about it.

I am not your gay friend. It is complete friendly castration to get in bed with a straight guy, your not related too, and it's not a life and death situation to spoon with you.

Your my friend, but your a fucking tease and I hate you secretly.

Tags: complaints, gripes, love, sucks

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer W on September 22, 2009 at 11:48am

Wow Dre, some venom! I'll be the first one to admit there's a lot of girls that don't have the gaul to tell a guy where he stands. It's worse when they are stringing along! I don't have the heart to do that to a human being.

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Permalink Reply by Nate on September 22, 2009 at 11:54am

People will stop taking advantage of you when you stop allowing them to. You can walk away whenever you want to, if that's what you really want. Just remember, abuse doesn't always come in the shape of a fist.

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Permalink Reply by Dre Smith on September 22, 2009 at 12:03pm

This certain female friend I've stopped speaking too in the last couple of months. It just was no longer healthy for me.

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Permalink Reply by Not important on September 23, 2009 at 10:53pm

Ya, really. Why aren't you bringing these things up to begin with? The very first time you got a feeling of resentment bring it up. How are you so great for someone if you can't even be honest with them? You are only in the situation b/c you allow the situation to go on. If you want her, tell her. If she says no, then say "well, I'd like to devote more of my free time to meeting and bonding with someone that I can spend the rest of my life with. See ya on facebook."
I can empathize with your feelings. But you are more important than you are allowing yourself to be treated. Stand up for yourself, be heard, be noticed and find someone you respects you back.

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Permalink Reply by Dre Smith on September 22, 2009 at 12:02pm

I appreciate the love, just some things I've had to get off my chest. Right now, I'm just feeling as you say "venomous". It's just so dammned frustrating to be single and to have to watch the morons in love and getting all the glory and not being nowhere near the man I am. I know how that sounds but one can't help but draw that conclusion when you hear how these women describe their men and their relationships these days. Am I so wrong that I want honesty? Just simple honesty.

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Permalink Reply by Louis on September 22, 2009 at 12:16pm

Welcome to the friend zone.

Ha ha! Now you are stuck in the friend zone!

It happens to all of us Dre. The friend zone is a very tough place to be, trust me, I've been stuck here for years. Take a seat, it's going to be a long ride.

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Permalink Reply by Dre Smith on September 22, 2009 at 12:20pm

I've just stopped being friends with the girl in question. The friend zone is like being stuck in a sexless void....kinda of like marriage I would gather. I don't know the who the hell told women that it's okay to be a cock tease and still that it would be cool to be friends.

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Permalink Reply by Louis on September 22, 2009 at 12:31pm

All hope abandon ye who enter here

It sucks. There isn't much more that can be said about it. None of my friends who've ever found themselves stuck in the friend zone have ever managed to escape it.

I don't know why it's like that, but it happens, and it's terrible.

What ever happened to the days when we could just kill a man to take his woman?

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Permalink Reply by Dre Smith on September 22, 2009 at 12:39pm

We had to stop because SHE still had feelings for him.

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Permalink Reply by Louis on September 22, 2009 at 3:10pm

That whole situation is a bitch and a half isn't it?

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Permalink Reply by Kira on October 3, 2009 at 1:44pm

So I'm not alone... ;)

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Permalink Reply by Emekan A'dem on September 22, 2009 at 12:50pm

It sounds like you need a hug.

*HUG*

That aside, I understand your pain. The friend zone SUCKS. It feels like only in chick flick will someone ever come around and think "hey...that person I call my friend...is actually PERFECT for me!" I was lucky enough to have it happen to me once.

But you know what? I was unlucky enough to lose that person, too. The pain of losing a best friend that became a significant other goes far beyond losing a significant that was your best friend.