So I have a severe form of eczema that has resulted in random outbreaks whenever it gets hot. Yeah it sucks, but I have learned to deal with it. Anyway, my mother usually helps me apply creme to my body to help lessen the outbreak, which I really appreciate, when today she came to the conclusion that my eczema became really bad when she thought that I started to pull away from "god". I was under the assumption that she assumed that my recent severity with eczema escalated when I stopped going to church over 2 years ago. This pissed me off inside even though I told her that I did not want to discuss religious topics at the time. How the hell can my mother honestly believe that my current situation is a result of not believing in "god" enough. If there is a god that is punishing me for not believing him, then I want to just say screw him. Why would I worship a god that must inflict pain just because I fail to believe that he exists. What would my mother say if I was religious and going through the same thing. Would she say that I just didn't believe or would she say "God has plan or he is trying to teach you" or some other b.s. I just wanted to hear other peoples thoughts on when bad luck falls upon an atheists, religious people believes it's a punishment from god for not "believing", but when the same happens to a religious person it is "God's will".
Sorry that it took me forever to get back here. As for you question about being atheist in the south...I actually identify as agnostic (but to most theists it's all the same). I was living in Maryland when I first "came out" against religion. So by the time I moved to NC, I was already pretty grounded in my non-belief. I haven't had much of a problem here, but then I tend not to really discuss religion unless I know the person well. I will say that I have been approached and asked religious questions by random people since here, and that never happened to me before. Just last month I had an older gentleman stop me in the grocery store. He told me I look like I go to church and asked what church I went to. I just politely told him I don't go to church, and left it at that. When I was still in the Raleigh area, I had an interview and the lady asked me if I had a church home. Now, I found that to be extremely inappropriate. As an HR person, she certainly should have known better than to bring up religion in an interview. But for the most part, I haven't had any in your face type of issues. I have found Charlotte to be a bit more conservative than Raleigh, and I've even come across religious signs and crosses in the oddest places. I stopped at a gas station to put air in my tire, and right by the air machine was a cross and some little pamphlets about finding God. I just rolled my eyes, put air in my tire, and left.
What does someone who goes to church look like? Nice? I wish i could have a chance to answer that question to someone, just to see their expression. I bet when you answered him, your answer was not even in his database of possible answers.
Because many believers believe in a strict, punishing parent-type god, it makes perfect sense that your skin condition is a punishment from that god. Of course, you and I know it's a medical condition. I find it so sad that many Christians believe in the simplistic notion that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. When bad things happen to good people, what do they say? They say it's a test of faith.
When my mom was diagnosed with cancer 22 years ago, she said the words "Why is God punishing me?". She was convinced she had done something wrong to bring on the condition. Now that she's survived 22 years, she will say that her faith got her through. It gave her strength to fight. I'm not arguing her logic but I know that her fantastic team of doctors and their precisely targeted treatment had a lot to do with it too.