So I have a severe form of eczema that has resulted in random outbreaks whenever it gets hot. Yeah it sucks, but I have learned to deal with it. Anyway, my mother usually helps me apply creme to my body to help lessen the outbreak, which I really appreciate, when today she came to the conclusion that my eczema became really bad when she thought that I started to pull away from "god". I was under the assumption that she assumed that my recent severity with eczema escalated when I stopped going to church over 2 years ago. This pissed me off inside even though I told her that I did not want to discuss religious topics at the time. How the hell can my mother honestly believe that my current situation is a result of not believing in "god" enough. If there is a god that is punishing me for not believing him, then I want to just say screw him. Why would I worship a god that must inflict pain just because I fail to believe that he exists. What would my mother say if I was religious and going through the same thing. Would she say that I just didn't believe or would she say "God has plan or he is trying to teach you" or some other b.s. I just wanted to hear other peoples thoughts on when bad luck falls upon an atheists, religious people believes it's a punishment from god for not "believing", but when the same happens to a religious person it is "God's will".
You cannot choose to believe in something, even if belief would make your life easier. If you do not believe in god, the only choice you have is whether to live openly and honestly, or to live a lie. The resolution to this dispute is entirely in your mother's hands. What does she value? Your honesty and a close relationship? Or would she pressure you to burden yourself with lies, pushing you two apart?
In the bible story of Job, God is very angry with certain people for telling Job that he must have done something to deserve his suffering.
Thanks for the advice, but my mother has been pretty laid back about the idea of being an atheist considering that my family is religious. She thinks its a phase, but whenever I try to tell her some of the most disturbing things in the bible, she gets the look on her face that this is not just some phase that I am going through. Sometimes I don't think religious people understand how some of their statements can come across as a bit condescending.
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Sorry that it took me forever to get back here. As for you question about being atheist in the south...I actually identify as agnostic (but to most theists it's all the same). I was living in Maryland when I first "came out" against religion. So by the time I moved to NC, I was already pretty grounded in my non-belief. I haven't had much of a problem here, but then I tend not to really discuss religion unless I know the person well. I will say that I have been approached and asked religious questions by random people since here, and that never happened to me before. Just last month I had an older gentleman stop me in the grocery store. He told me I look like I go to church and asked what church I went to. I just politely told him I don't go to church, and left it at that. When I was still in the Raleigh area, I had an interview and the lady asked me if I had a church home. Now, I found that to be extremely inappropriate. As an HR person, she certainly should have known better than to bring up religion in an interview. But for the most part, I haven't had any in your face type of issues. I have found Charlotte to be a bit more conservative than Raleigh, and I've even come across religious signs and crosses in the oddest places. I stopped at a gas station to put air in my tire, and right by the air machine was a cross and some little pamphlets about finding God. I just rolled my eyes, put air in my tire, and left.