Ahh, what a relief it is to be here!
In my everyday life, for the most part, I keep my atheism to myself. Since we all know that, for the most part, voicing a non-belief in God can invite misunderstanding and hatred.
I'm lucky enough that my husband, parents, and only sibling (brother) think that religion is a bunch of B.S..
Recently, due to my daughter's severe illness (uncontrolled seizures), I received an outpouring of well-wishers praying for us. To those people, I always responded graciously by saying, "thank you." Although I found it logically troubling that they were unable to comprehend what in my mind, seemed almost arrogant because, if my kid's epilepsy trajectory was diverted due to a surgery, and another child did not have such luck; it seems to me that circumstances were on our side, i.e., having insurance, and having the best neuro team. Not God.
Why is that so hard to understand?
After all, who would be so bold to claim that God decided to answer one child's prayers and not the other?
(Having come in contact with lots of M.D.'s----I was astounded at how many of them are quick to express their belief in the super-natural. To my chagrin, a Dr. prayed for us while she was in the O.R.!)
Regardless, I chalked it up to people being kind, not knowing what else to say, etc...And for the most part, was not at all offended by prayer offerings, except when my MIL sent me an email telling me to "put it in God's hands." That p*ssed me off, because I have been her DIL for 14 years and have never brought up God with her, knowing that she believes and I don't....what would be the point? I found it to be lazy of her to tell me to "put it in God's hands", because she knew very well how much effort was involved in getting her granddaughter treated.
Why is it that the reality-based folks get demonized?
Also, when I do mention that I do not believe in God, and people jump on me....and ask, "What made you an atheist?" ( I answer back, "what made you NOT believe in unicorns?" )