Do you mean:
"learning to accept each other's faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship."
"Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn't a deal-breaker!"
So great are our personal relationships that they somehow don't compare to the one we can have with god. Sounds like somebody forgot the point they were trying to make halfway through the letter. Not uncommon at all. To some people, everything has to have a connection to god, jesus, whatever. Even when there's no reason to bring it up, it somehow gets injected into a conversation. My in-laws are that way. They've somehow managed to tone it down as of late. Probably started getting obvious that it wasn't being well received when all they got for their efforts was an awkward silence.
you're close. you hit on the key sentence. read the husband's reaction when his daughter asks him if he really liked the burnt biscuits again.
The "a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!" part is a little bit inconsistent. It is supposedly a key component in making relationships work yet at the same time ONLY god will love you if you're less than perfect.
uh-huh. More examples of people who yearn for the unattainable, even if they have to resort to imaginary scenarios and deities to get there. Sadomasochism, it's what's for breakfast.
you're still missing it. it says that God is the only one for which a burnt biscuit isn't a deal breaker. isn't there someone else in this story that feels the same way?
One of the most refreshing things about the relationship I have with my wife is that we are OPEN with each other. We are tolerant of each others' quirks and peculiarities, and if something isn't right, one of us will point it out to the other, though I have to say, that doesn't happen very often. Positive feedback is offered often (usually avec smooches!) and negative feedback given gently and without rancor. Neither of us lay ANYTHING at the feet of any god, because neither of us subscribe to such a belief and such a practice would not help if we did use it. What we have is US, and we both recognize that WE are the ones who are going to make this relationship work. No god is available to ameliorate a problem or soothe hurt feelings. If we don't do the work, the work doesn't get done.
As for that last comment about life without god, I had my own run-in with that phrase some time ago and documented my reaction to it here. I didn't like that bullshit back then and I like it even less now.
Excellent post, Loren - I only hope that one day I can look back at my marriage and have just as much to be proud of.
I wonder how many failed marriages are victim to this lazy attitude of god finding one a "soulmate" and making someone's relationship work for them. I've had friends tell me everything from "we're waiting on god's timing", to "god didn't want me with that person".
Jesus CHRIST! Accept a little culpability for something in your life, just once! Do I ever say that? Err... no. I dream of it, though. Haha
regarding life without god, it bothers me too. i think it pisses off all atheists. my mom knows my beliefs full well but she's not gonna stop trying. i get an email about god pretty much every week. i don't let it bother me b/c i know it's b/c she cares. still, some of them really get my goat.
Have you considered sending her christian/Jesus memes from atheist message boards to get your point across?
honestly, i would never.
as a non-christian i follow the golden rule.
I actually liked that story up to the point she mentioned God. The story is cute and has an equally secular application (don't nitpick at peoples' small imperfections or mistakes because we're human and they happen, and it's not worth causing tension in a relationship over - try to understand their position). But as soon as she stuck God into it, I was like 'nope'. I find that these sorts of understandings in relationship have literally nothing at all to do with any deity or religion at all. This is simply something people (as human beings) should learn - to be more patient with one another.
i totally agree. it's a very nice story. personally, i love biscuits but cannot eat a burned one. that man is a hero :)