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Permalink Reply by Nerdlass on September 13, 2012 at 10:54pm

It sounds to me as though your mind is picking up the patterns of his proximity. Our minds are amazing machines and will focus on things if given half the chance. 

For the longest time (and sometimes, even now), I notice when it's 9:11 in the morning... since 9/11, my mind picks up that pattern.

I wouldn't worry about it. Just try not to extrapolate any supposed meaning to it.

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Permalink Reply by Stormi C. on September 13, 2012 at 11:03pm

Alright. It's just odd, I usually only notice the 9:11 thing on the clock like you do. I notice details too on this person. I can tell when he gets his hair trimmed, I could tell you all the band tees he has, I notice when he switches his glasses, and I know what color his eyes are. Like I said before, and just to clarify, I'm NOT obsessed. But since I see him often, I notice details that most ignore.

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Permalink Reply by Stormi C. on September 13, 2012 at 11:26pm

And also, I've always noticed details on people and things and in text, but not on strangers.

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Permalink Reply by michele ricketts on September 19, 2012 at 8:01pm

You're a detail orientated person that is all. Do you notice so much detail because you are looking for patterns or one's that aren't there? Is that what you are trying to say?

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Permalink Reply by Stormi C. on September 19, 2012 at 8:04pm

Well I don't really look for patterns. I just notice. I think maybe if I didn't have attention deficit disorder I wouldn't notice but because this person is a distraction and I have a hard time focusing on one thing, I notice things.

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Permalink Reply by michele ricketts on September 19, 2012 at 7:14pm

I don't know about to such an extent but Jung claims synchronicity exists. He claims that when he was doing his tunneling in the collective unconscious co-incidences would confirm he was on the right trackl.
More spookily when I came out of an abortion clinic having signed up on the dotted line I turned down the street and a man holding a huge funeral wreath asked me for directions. What are the chances of that? Although it was the would-be child of a very shite hot drummer and musicien who sort of rolled his eyes once around the month we were conceiving as if it occurred to him " oh not again I already have one of those " We were not trying to conceive. A photo of his 1year old son has him looking side-ways at his mother already looking as conscious as 2yr old. He was a precocious kid. Did father and son promote synchronicity or was it a warning "!something you should know " because the termination turned out to be one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made in my life. Synchrronicity I believe functions as " something you should know " if it is pivotal enough in your life.
Something-you-should-know more commonly as unresolved issues between two people. I keep having that occur with the same guy over the last 5 years. What sparked it is I dumped him for being hurtful in a total bastard ways He was in the process of dumping me at the time after 6 months of quite involved flirtation. Neither of us were exactly willing to push the penny as we were both living in a community house where sleeping with the other sex meant being kicked out and I was also dead shy of him as his effect sort of over-welmed me. I moved out as i did not want to keep bumping into him in the house. He sorely regretted it. But I was to angry to let him make amends. " What? You want to show your sorry because it proves your POTENTIAL to be a nice guy. Get this-within a month my ex-husband and I pulled up right behind his car at the super-market ( you know how people line up outside the doors as they don't want to get wet in the rain)
What I was supposed to know was to see how he seemed to have shrunk down to a humble guy. He was shopping with a nurse ( real one) who I heard he had gotton close to after I left. She was lit up like a Christmas tree with expectations. Definetely not his type and I thought he is using her to bounce back to himself what a good guy he is in potential. ( I bumped into her once soon after she had moved out of the house to be with him. She had put on weight and looked resolved to over-come some sorrow.) This humble-pie was all for his own benefit of course because when I bumped into him about 4-5 times in the same year he was acting like a grouch for being dumped and unforgiven. I sent him a letter a year later to make amends and on cue passed him on the street within 2weeks.I was living on the out-skirts of the town we share him down-town is stranger.
I got involved with my boyfriend and did not see him for 3yrs except from a bus where he looked like he was waiting for a lift. ( "Yeah I know where that sneaky treacherous expression comes from! ! ") Last August I ignored him walkd past.He was sitting on a bench. I looked back at my past from the end of the street. His neck was screwed round like he'd been following me with his eyes. A few minutes later I saw him from the bus looking alert and wistful. In October two rare exchanges fell together within a week. The first was I got invited back to a shit. hot blues singer/guitarist chatting to a group of people at the end of a night in a bar. In a platonic way we had a lot to share on the nature of atheism and synchronicity among other things. He's quite a heavy man but I held my own in a way. Week later I was in group audience with a visiting Lama. Boy was I pissed at the general obsequiousness in the room. Respect yes any more is silly and guess I got an attitude. I caught his eye and he looked at me as if to say " now we are going to have fun"Without looking at me he was aware of of what I was thinking. Say I'm mad but each time I thought-vented something I had worked out for myself if it was true or worthy that is not commonly acknowledged he went " sweaty-eyed " and humble. For example I don't believe in re-incarnation and am/was convinced masters of meditation in Buddhism don't either. As you may know Bhuddism is atheist which is also a catch-all for my mystical musings.There are the masses in Bhuddism who worship the Bhudda as a God or God but he never encouraged it and explicitly said as much. His translator went from bland sphinx to catching my eye and trying to spook me out for being bold. Yet he never gave me bad vibes.
So anyway who do you think I meet the following week being very friendly. For all his terrible machismo ego I have always had a crush on him. I was pretty full of myself after those two encounters; sort of self-consolidated in a way. And in the pivotel way I mentioned earlier that attracts synchronicity. I believe in some way I have a deep effect on him and from me being deeply effected by the Lama and musician it effected us. ( No-he asked me if I had a boy-friend but I wouldn't dream of cheating.Yes-we continue to oddly synchronise)
So quite a long posting but if you are fascinated by the idea of synchronicity few are going to believe you let alone explain it in the terms Jung describes that we are all linked in the collective unconscious. He has written volumes on this subject plus an interesting auto-biography. I believe the collective unconscious is where mysticism lives too plus a lot of "magical" phenomena.Also that if the mind is not clouded by the sublimations of God and religion it is more open intuitively. Possibly in an abstract you are fascinated by the nature of co-incidence which is why you project it upon ( alas) a guy with a secret crush on you who is making sure you both co-incide alright the better the possability you will take a shine to him. ( because it is happening way too often for synchronicity! ! )

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Permalink Reply by Stormi C. on September 19, 2012 at 7:37pm

That was very long but I read it all and that's really interesting. I've never heard of a thing like that but it makes sense. One thing I didn't mention was we even wear very similar things. I usually just wear black band tees to school (which he does too but I'm guessing that's because he likes the same music as I do because a lot of people wear band tees) but I have a tyedye shirt I only wear occaisionally and the one day I wore it to school he had on a tyedye shirt. I just recently figured out his name because I found out we even have the same friends.

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