I get the same thing. I think it's just that both genders do the "window shopping" bs--I'll get messages from guys who BLATANTLY in their profile say stuff like "wants 4-7 kids, plans on becoming a pastor soon".
....they clearly did not read a word of my profile.
Then of course, I'll send a message to a guy who has everything in common with me(doesn't want kids, doesn't drink, smoke, is atheist) and I'll even start off the conversation on a common topic in his profile--but I never get a reply.
It's the main reason why I'm not particularly looking right now. I could put all the energy I have into it and all I'll succeed in doing is upsetting myself over how seemingly good guys turn me down due to my weight and how every guy who's interested in me expects me to immediately change my mind and want kids, start going to church, etc.
That's totally happened to me too :)
You know some dating agencies really push the idea of putting an effort into writing a really good profile, so the few times I tried, I really tried to use the CCC of writing and create a good profile, but it's a stream of what must be illiterate people cuz they inevitably have NOT read the profile. Even when they write stuff like: "I liked your profile". So I quit that scene too :)
"I liked your profile(specifically the photo part--which was the only part I saw)."
Yeah, I even "completed" the profile on OKC, and I switch out my photos every few months or so--but I doubt anyone really looks at words or reads them. :(
I call it "window shopping", guys just clicking through local profiles, then messaging women the moment they go 'eh, I could fuck her and she looks like she might fuck me, what the hell, I'll message her!"
MY PROFILE DOES NOT SAY ONE NIGHT STANDS. It says Friends, Long Term Dating--that's it. But unfortunately I don't think the guys looking for one night stands bother to read profiles. They just throw tons of spaghetti at the wall and hope it sticks. <sigh>
Jonel, if it makes you feel any better, men have the same problem. Most women don't read profiles, either, they just look at pictures. If he's not "hot", she just deletes his message, unread.
Sadly, humans are visual creatures, and appearance is pretty much everything.
Michael, it is only fair that women want a looker, since men do. I like to look,too, at my lover, so he'd better be decent.
"Fair" isn't the issue here. I'm simply disappointed that people are so shallow. It makes it tough for the approximately 85% of us who are of merely average appearance or worse, that we are judged almost solely on traits that we have no control over.
I think another big thing is that human beings are so arrogant to think that they can change their mates. Of course we all make compromises and changes when we are in a relationship, that's just the reality of the situation. But life altering decisions like having children is something that shouldn't be changed on a whim or at the will of another person.