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Can atheist brothas be faulted for looking for love outside their race?

First off dont get me wrong, whoever one chooses to love is certainly their business, and I have no problems with inter-racial couples. I myself have dated outside my race in the past, and would have no concerns about doing so again. However, truth be told I would love to find a sista, (woman of color-from wherever) who was atheist,or at the very least maybe spiritual but not religious. Talk about needle in the haystack! Maybe one that actually lives in my city, or state (we all cant relocate). Usually w/ sista's upon hearing my belifes, or lack thereof, 'the party's over". Which is not a bad thing I, since I certainly could not deal with the whole xtian mindset, customs yatta, yatta. I am not a god-fearing man and am very proud of it! At the same time there seem to be more white women for whom it is not a concern. So would I be settling? I mean, you fall in love with, who you fall in love with. Maybe I just feel my sista's eyes already rollin at me, just for the thought of it. But hey, a brotha cant wait "forever" for yall to come around.

Not patiently waiting.

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Permalink Reply by Alona Naga on January 21, 2011 at 11:30pm

I know all to well this feeling I live in Hillsborough NC... you know where they first started locking people up for teaching evolution... I'll be moving back to NYC soon.

Permalink Reply by Kenneth W Stephens on October 12, 2011 at 3:44am

The advances of the internet should enable us to look more effectively for co-freethought relationships within the diaspora which is more world-wide than we realize.

Permalink Reply by Joy Cody on October 13, 2011 at 12:17am

My husband and I are raising a beautiful black freethinking girl...at least we hope so. She's only three, but I hope she stays a freethinker...I'm sure she'll stay beautiful and reasonably sure she'll stay female.

This scares me for her, though. If she grows up attracted to black men or women, it seems like it'll be hard for her to find love. Maybe things will change in the next twenty five years.

Permalink Reply by Navitta Nelson on November 4, 2011 at 9:54am

I feel your pain, TRUST!!! I was just talking to a potential dater via net, yesterday. I was having a problem with something and he replies "pray on it". I didn't say anything, tho. If I would have said "I ain't prayin' on a damn thing" he probably would have ran for the hills. lol

Most White folks don't buy into religion like Black folks. You wouldn't be settling. I guess it beats a zero! lol.