Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by David Zgurski on February 22, 2012 at 6:27pm

Saying I'm an atheist is the easy part, but it's been hard on some of my loved ones that I don't want to participate in their little Christian reindeer games, so to speak.  It helps not to be the only atheist in the family though, so I'm not viewed as some sort of rebellious teenager raging against conformity.  Most of my family can see that I have a viewpoint that is shared by many famous and ordinary people.

Also, I try to keep my atheism very low-key when I go on dates, talk to friends and strangers, etc.  I've met a lot of Christians and Muslims at work and elsewhere who identify themselves as Catholic, Mormon, Muslim, etc., but don't see a conflict with dating or being friends or partners with an atheist.  I think that's the effect of non-believers and atheists being increasingly open, but also vigilant to point out that atheism is not a synonym for devil-worshipper, anarchist or cynical amoralist.  I've found that to a lot of people who still believe, the message is getting through.

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2012 at 4:17pm

David, I had the same difficulty with religious celebrations so I created my own and invited others to join me, i.e. Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, Summer Solstice, Autumn Equinox, birthdays, anniversaries, and stuff like that. Our biggest celebration is Autumn Equinox because travel is easy and safer at that time of year, we harvest my garden with feasting, and we note the days will start getting shorter. Winter in the north is miserable driving and flying so I hibernate and read and write. Spring is a very busy time with planting and getting things growing well, summer usually has camping and other events taking priority for families. 

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Lance Van Valin on February 23, 2012 at 1:41am

Very open about my atheism. I recently started a new job were it is mostly right wing Christians. At first I didn't let them know I was an atheist, I wanted them to get to know me first. Now that they know, I have had no problems. We even get to talk about religion now that it is in the new so much lately, with the republican debates and the Obama Care/Catholic contraception uproar. I am even a member of the newly formed CFI-Humanists of Salem, Oregon. I have a lot of online atheist friends, but it would be nice to have more in-person atheist friends. Hopefully, the group will grow and we can make a positive impression on the community.

I don't hide the fact that I'm an atheist to my friends on FaceBook and a lot of them post religious comments. I don't antagonize them, but I do welcome any discussion on the topic.

Be a proud atheist.

Good luck.

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2012 at 4:22pm

When I get sappy stuff from religious family and friends I thank them and send them some quote or article about atheism. I hate those "made-up-stories-that wring-one's-heart. A report of suffering or overcoming is welcome, but a lot of it is just obviously creations of someone's overactive imagination. 

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by ApeironPrime on February 23, 2012 at 4:50am

If and when the topic comes up, I'm very open about it. In most European countries, it isn't
a big deal to be honest... When I read the posts from people from America, I feel sad for them. I could never live in a environment like that...

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Greg LeGore on February 23, 2012 at 6:50am

Sadly, many of us cannot or are not willing to move to Europe where the civilized countries have established a level of compassion and fairness not currently possible within the US.  There have been huge changes since I was a child but the differences from Europe show how much farther we have to go.

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 23, 2012 at 1:38pm

Greg, The principles upon which USA was founded are grand and glorious, but as a nation we never lived up to the words. Washington, Jefferson, etc. owned slaves, after slavery ended, discrimination continues to this day. But the echoes of freedom, justice, equality of opportunity reside in our minds and are worthy principles. Instead of going toward those noble ideals, we seem to be caught in an avalanche of ownership and property rights, with little thought of people and their rights to fairness and justice.  

Therefore, we cannot remain silent! or acquiescent! or obedient! and need to be making a lot of noise, marching in streets, registering voters, and praising the true heroes of our nation (Bradley Manning).

There are so many issues that need repair and replacement, and one cannot do all of it, so I am focusing on violence in the home and violence in the military-industrial complex. I go to bed weary from working on just that one topic. 

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Greg LeGore on February 23, 2012 at 3:29pm

Joan, agree - I was just lamenting that we have so far to go.  Having traveled around the world, I'm astonished at how many of the people who insist that the US is still the greatest nation of all time (and I share that notion but for different reasons than they) even though they've never left their state or region of birth.

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 23, 2012 at 10:32pm

Greg, I have the same impression. While I found a lot of people angry with the USA's policies, I was treated very well, even though I travelled mostly alone or with an interpreter. Not many of my generation seem interested in history ... I mean real history, not the propaganda stuff that comes through movies and TV. I seriously doubt kids get the stories of greed and domination. Extreme patriotism grates on me and when I hear people say, "God bless America" i ask if they could include a blessing for the innocents of bombed out villages. 

What countries have you been to? Were you in the military? 

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Greg LeGore on February 24, 2012 at 5:51am

I've been all over the Caribbean and South and Central America; visited some of Europe, too much of the Middle East, and not enough of Asia.  Yes, I was in the military.  In one of my assignments about two decades ago, I had the opportunity to meet some senior leaders of other nations - to a person they felt that the US, with its 'advantages' was both a great hope and sometimes a disappointment that we didn't do more with what we had.  As one colleague put it, it is a moral challenge for us, in the US, and people in capitalist societies, to see that we could spend our efforts taking our lives from a 9 to a 10 or helping much of the rest of the world go from a 0 to a 1.  Sadly, I don't know that they'd see us a positive example with our low world-wide rankings on public health, education, science and math knowledge, government openness, and more.  We've been eating the seed corn of the past generations and have squandered much of what we inherited but did not earn.  Much of this is related to the cultural and religious wars fomented by the religious extremists of our country but there is plenty of blame for all of us.

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2012 at 4:33pm

Greg, Exactly! Just because we claim to be BEST doesn't mean we are. I am so glad to talk with you as you have been in countries other than USA and know what others' think of us, how others live, and can understand that differences are good. I am becoming more convinced that diversity is a high value and your reference to one kind of corn is a perfect example. When I lived in Texas I tried to grow corn and had to use so many chemicals to kill bugs and fungi, it wan't fit for human consumption. How will we manage when a really powerful bug or fungus attacks all our corn, or wheat, or apples?
As to religion ... it seems to turn humans into warring factions instead of communities of diversity.  

• ▶ Reply

Permalink Reply by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2012 at 4:23pm

Me neither!

• ▶ Reply

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• …
• 8
• 9
• 10
• 11
• 12
• …
• 22
• Next ›
• Page