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An atheist married to a christian venting

While the fact that I, as an atheist, marrying a christian was a sure fire way to lead to disagreements it went a bit too far today.

She has spending each day at a ongoing church revival for the last two weeks. Today I finally raised a bit of concern for just how much time she was spending there each day (from about 10am to 3pm and then 6pm to 11pm each day). Her response was something that I have never experienced before - She "rebuked me in the name of Jesus", called me a devil and proceeded to follow me around the house talking in tongues. WTF! How is that any different then a small child sticking their fingers in their ears and saying "nanana I can't hear you!"? To me that is just incredibly disrespectful and dismissive as if anything said couldn't possibly be from a spouse but had to be the boogieman.

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Permalink Reply by Daniel B on November 29, 2012 at 8:33pm

Bingo on the 1st Corinthians verse.

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Permalink Reply by Shyanne Gold Orr on November 28, 2012 at 3:13am

Wow, that is very disrespectful. I think she was definitely acting like a child with that reaction. I haven't met someone that was that into their religion so far, and I really don't want to. It seems many religious people will have preconceived ideas of what an atheist is and will not listen to a word you say when you try to convince them otherwise, even loved ones. I also am wondering, you said you have young children. Are they forced to go to church, or not. Perhaps they enjoy church, though they are not old enough to actually make up their minds about religion. If they do go, is it as often as your wife? That would defiantly be too much for someone so young, in my opinion.

Good luck, Brian.

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Permalink Reply by Travis Hedglin on November 29, 2012 at 6:30pm

Drop her, drop her like a bad case of fleas, and never look back...

Sorry, I know I should not be so gung-ho about it, but think about what she is going to do to your kids...

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Permalink Reply by Meddlesome on December 22, 2012 at 4:05am

On the plus side however her spending so much time there gives you plenty of time with the kids, able to influence them. Also If it comes to a split, showing you are the primary caregiver will help persuade a judge that you are the appropriate parent. (Of course if you get a religious judge you are screwed anyhow!)