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Permalink Reply by Mark on March 25, 2012 at 3:15pm

Holy fucking hell.

If by good partner the author means less likely to cheat on you because he's a desperate, low-testosterone chump.... then yes.

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Permalink Reply by Steph S. on April 3, 2012 at 8:17pm

So you are saying that you are hot? Interesting opinion piece.

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Permalink Reply by Jedi Wanderer on April 4, 2012 at 8:03am

Lol! Yeah I guess that's what I'm saying! If by hot we mean intellectually and emotionally attractive. I can't speak to physical attractiveness (well I can, but I won't). :-D

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Permalink Reply by Michael OL on April 3, 2012 at 11:58pm

Beyond the whimsy, there's some sense to this.  People who fit these descriptors are risk-averse, tolerant of unsatisfying situations, patient without being pedantic, unambitious and aloof.  A person with such traits is likely to put up with a demanding or unpleasant mate without destroying the relationship.  He (let's assume that this applies to men) would have difficulty meeting other women, and in recognition of this, probably would not even try.  Being risk averse, he is unlikely to gamble, to indulge in foolish behavior such as drunk driving, or to make stupid financial investments.  But being a nerd, he is relatively adept at practical things such fixing the car. 

The problem is that the same trends that make a good husband, make it unlikely that the guy in question would be good dating material.  He is unlikely to come forward to attract women's attention, and would likely be ignored even if he makes the attempt.

Ladies, have you ever heard of "go ugly early"?

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Permalink Reply by Jedi Wanderer on April 4, 2012 at 8:05am

Yeah Micheal, good points. I seem to be particularly adept at putting up with "difficult" mates. 

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