The dangers of profanity

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Permalink Reply by Skylar on July 18, 2008 at 6:13pm

Language is language? No. Language imparts meaning and context to ideas, thought, philosophy, mathematics, science and all of those things that are held in highest regard by the literate inhabitants of earth. Language also allows us to convey our deepest contempt, hatred, revilement and disgust.

Whether one realizes it or not, the choice of language or particular words leave an impression on the audience. I don't think this is really "about the children".

The impression I am left with upon seeing a group entitled "Fnck Islam" or "Fnck Christianity" is that of hatred, anger, and abuse. I don't want to be associated with racism, sexism, ageism, homophobia, culturalism, or ethnicism. Religious hate is not within my realm of comfort either. I think it is unjust for people to hate me for my lack of religious beliefs and I extend them the same courtesy.

That said, I don't condone censorship of speech or thought. Where I live cursing or swearing is not socially acceptable. When I do it, I KNOW it's not acceptable. I have never said "fnck you" to a loved one. I would find that abusive. I think, though, that the more frequently one drops the "F Bomb" the less it's impact. Here, if you say it, you had better really mean it. Other places, it's as common as breath itself.

In written language, I find the usage of profanity to be a distraction which cheapens the author's meaning in some cases. In other cases, it's humorous. In still other cases, profanity punches between dull lines of prose.

Words are not harmless in my opinion. They have teeth. A well crafted insult will deliver its bite regardless of sticks and stones. Laws and constitutions, poetry, music, philosophies and beliefs are also transcribed into reality via the written word. Peers identify one another through their words. So yes, I think words matter.

Children have at birth no inkling of the impact of language. We learn along the way. Knowing the "bad words" for male genitalia as you mentioned isn't the problem. The problem is where the child USES the word. Don't call grandma a c@cksucker, ok?

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Permalink Reply by LeaT on July 20, 2008 at 7:03am

I speak of language in completely other terms than you do. That it is artificual, that it is originally as neutral as the machine you sit in front everyday, may it be the TV or a computer. What you speak of is of cultural influences of the language. Sure, language is a part of culture, but language is also language in its own rights. A language is an artificial means of communication. A language can as thus reflect a culture just like turning on the TV and watching the news can, but the TV itself is harmless. It is the people who use the language and give words connotations that gives it subjective meanings.

Do you think the word värmlänning says something to you as a non-Swede? It is a word, but for you it is neutral because you don't know its meaning. The people give words meanings. This is very true in the case of eupheisms. Now the word black is almost becoming offensive and the word colored is preferred (as in speaking of other ethnical groups than people originally born in the West).

Of course certain words have certain powerful meanings, but it only depends on your own subjective exposement to the word. As you stated yourself, the word fuck might mean far less to someone else than it does to you. You find it yourself a highly aggressive word. Indeed, aggression is one of the main reasons we use swearing words today. We would have serious troubles showing the exact position of our aggressions without swearings.

Compare to "I'm gonna kill you!" to "I'm gonna kill you you bastard!" to "I'm gonna kill you idiot!". They all show different levels of aggression, some very thin, some with huge gaps. When one word becomes worn out, we replace it with something else.

I reiterate, words in themselves, words as just being words are harmless. Humans give them meanings, words don't carry meanings on their own. Words are due to subjective interpretations, and subjective exposement. But if we speak of words as just being words, they are all neutral. I am not saying words don't matter, language is useless, I should more than anyone, understand the importance of language and its limitations as a person who has studied linguistics, even on a more basic level. But you seem to have issues separating that language forms after its user, not the other way around. Langauge is a tool, just like a knife. You can use a knife for all kind of purposes, like cutting vegetables. Still in the hand of a murderer, a knife can become tool to kill with.

That is the difference I wanted to state out.

Which also think I stated out further down in the discussion, is that when the child does indeed call their grandma a cocksucker, it's to the grown-ups to explain why it isn't allowed.

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Permalink Reply by Skylar on July 20, 2008 at 1:05pm

I don't know why you say that I don't understand that words come after the speaker. I certainly do understand this.

I see what you mean, of course, and I agree that the word as it exists in abstraction is neutral. To children when first hearing a word, they may repeat this word without knowing its meaning. Or, as you pointed out, I may repeat the word värmlänning to you without knowing its meaning because this word is in a language that I don't understand. (Although there is a story about a criminal who I think has the name Värmlänning, so I may associate the word with a meaning that is completely opposite of what it means to you :)

But in any case, words are symbolic. They assume meaning from a cultural context that cannot be denied. That cultural context is what will determine the impact of the word. For example, using the word "colored" to describe someone who is of African descent is extremely insulting where I live. Using the word "black" is not as insulting. This is because of cultural context because where I live, the words "white" and "colored" were posted on signs for bathrooms, hotels, stores, restaurants etc. to segregate the people until about 1964.

This painful memory is still around and there are many people living here today who remember the civil rights movement and the violence and pain that was endured. There are also some older people around who still think in terms of segregation. So using that word "colored" is like pouring salt into a wound. If my son were to say that someone was "colored" I would quickly correct him.

The principles of communication are two directional. There is a message sender and a recipient. Communication does not occur without both parties involvement. So, I would argue that language is a medium, rather than a tool. If we compare this to art, we can say that the language paints a picture. The individual words may be like the individual paintbrushes as tools. On the whole, though, the language is a protocol or medium which facilitates communication by conveying a message.

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Permalink Reply by LeaT on July 20, 2008 at 2:45pm

I agree with most of what you say, but you also forgot that one-way communication is possible.

Actually, your picture is a little simplified. It's more like speaker -> carrier -> recipient. Speaker intents something, the carrier brings over whatever is being said, telephone line, a pen and paper if written down, or just our voices, then the recipient must interpret what the carrier tried to originally say. We know we can understand each other fairly well but a 100% interpretation is not possible due to subjective matter and how we do view language.

I find a word as lady very offensive, someone else sees it as a term of honor for a woman.

But to what I was trying to say, one-way communication can be to write a diary only intended for you alone f ex. Or even just talking to yourself. Ofc, some linguistics researchers do argue only 2 way communication is possible whereas I disagree. It would be hard to prove how writing a diary is 2 way unless the person writing a diary intends to let someone else read it.

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Permalink Reply by Tlaquepaque46 on August 31, 2008 at 5:50pm

Well said. My Dad was a miner and a railroader so you can bet he knew all the words. But, I never once heard him use profanity. He was not a prude -- he was suave and witty. But he had such a fine command of language that he could use words to wonderful - or devastating - effect without ever swearing.

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Permalink Reply by Rob Dinsmore on July 19, 2008 at 8:06am

I think the concept of profanity is outdated and outmoded. One can only offend if someone on the other end is willing to be offended. If you really have such a problem with a few phonemes stuck together then I really don't know what to tell you.

Well I could simply point out that most of the swear words have gone form being unspeakable to being commonplace in many settings. Ie more and more people are starting not to give a ___.

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Permalink Reply by Db0 on July 19, 2008 at 9:48am

That is true. Profanity varies not just from ages to ages but from culture to culture as well.

Where "shit" is considered quite profane, in Greek it's quite mild. Where 100 years ago blasphemy was all the rage, now sexual and scatological words are "offensive"
It all has to do with how the recipient takes it.

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Permalink Reply by Db0 on July 19, 2008 at 11:34am

I can't dissagree Nicholas, that is also true. However it's difficult to see how "doggonit" can be insulting now while 150 years ago it was a really profane word.

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Permalink Reply by LeaT on July 20, 2008 at 7:15am

I reiterate, we must seperate language and words as being just language and words from what the speakers use it and how.

Linguistics is a huge and interesting subject, but it is also very much to the recipient whether he or she actually wants to be offended. If a female is repeatedly called bitch, using bitch as an insult will probably not affect her as much as someone who is seldom if never used to being called bitch.

In certain more prude families and countries, to say "go to the toilet and shit" is still quite a shocking thing to say, and most people would react in such a situation, but in such case rather with surprise than aggression, as well maybe with a slight feeling of disgust.

The reason why would be that normal bodily functions have for a longer amount of time been considered bad within the society. That goes for sex and other toilet activities as example. Others can be to vomit (just look how many versions we have for vomit, throw up to puke! Whereas the last one has a bad word range and throw up is considered rather neutral and vomit more on a acedemical level), fart or sneeze so others can clearly see the mucus.

Also, we must account the level of awareness of language itself. Some people hardly have any awareness of connotations, sublime meanings and the differences between synonyms. Someone who called a group "Fuck Christianity" must have a rather normal level of awareness of how the word "fuck" is used, since it's used as means to not maybe really shock, but rather to give a strong impression to the reader, "I mean real business here".

I remember I wrote a journal entry called Dissecting Melodic Death Metal (MDM being a music genre/style) and the keypoint was to as throughly as possible explain to new listeners what defined the genre and what bands were commonly accepted within it. Some guy took the word "dissecting" literary and pointed out that I never went into real depth, whereas I had to explain the reason why is because I still intended it as a newbie guide aimed at people with little to no knowledge about music than people who have actively been into the music branch for years.

I would say he had a lower language awareness than I had, since I chose the word "dissecting" rather carefully, but with a more generalized use.

Well, maybe we should make a new thread more discsusing the use of language by humans if we want to further dig into that topic?

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Permalink Reply by BuildingCastles on July 20, 2008 at 8:05am

The shame of swearing is one of those ridiculous social norms that the majority of people don't dissect. It's one thing to not allow a child to say something because of the meaning, but when you allow them to say synonymous words, it's just ridiculous. I remember growing up with my fundy parents and my mom would shit a brick if I were to say "crap," but it was ok to say "poo" or "fecies." It made absolutely no sense. But as far as swearing overall, I just don't get the problem. People are fairly easily trained and they simply think words are bad or inappropriate at certain times because they've been socialized to believe that way. I don't have kids, but if I did, I wouldn't swear around them until they were old enough to know who not to swear around. Then, I would teach them dirty words and phrases that would impress their friends. :)

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Permalink Reply by Jack Carlson on July 20, 2008 at 9:48am

This is an interesting discussion of profanity, but to specifically address LeaT's concern...

Several forums I belong to have restrictions on profanity, from outlawing it completely to discouraging its unnecessary and gratuitous use.

Chris had it right in suggesting the reason is filters, and not just library filters. Many schools and businesses also have filters on their networks. Profanity is excluded no matter the context. As a result, many members can't access the forum from school or work.

I might include a profanity in a post or comment to make a point or because I feel it's relevant to the topic, but most of the time I consider it a courtesy to those logging in from school and work to avoid profanity as much as possible and thus enable them to enjoy the forum from where ever they are.

Self-control isn't censorship.

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Permalink Reply by LeaT on July 20, 2008 at 2:48pm

No, it isn't, profanity would be profanity if a law or other kind of system where swearing in general would not be allowed by outside forces.

While I understand most schools etc have such profanity filters, it makes me wonder though why those schools and work places have them? Well, I guess most of you are Americans, you seem to take the profanity thing way further than we Swedes do. Never experienced a profanity filter when I have tried to access certain sites from school, or work for the matter. I know that certain communities have been closed down at my old schools but that was because of extreme class drama involved, people weren't allowed to access those communities at school so they could further insult and humiliate each other.

It was an attempt for the school to keep the drama down. I don't think it worked well though.

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