Sounds pretty spot on. I deal with the pain and loss. I have also been told that I will never get over it. It has been two and a half years now. It gets easier as time passes but it doesn't make it easy.
My name is Michael. I'm in my 40's and live in the Seattle area. I've been an atheist since about age 14. Despite this reportedly being one of the least-religious areas of the country, you'd be hard pressed to find any actual evidence of that fact; churches here seem more plentiful than in California or Nevada where I grew up, and finding other non-religious people (particularly women) is quite difficult. I'm single, and I'd like to date, but, in common with much of the northwest and Alaska, the proportion of available men to women is so high that it's extremely hard. Add things like religious and political affiliations into the mix and finding even a remotely-compatible partner is really tough. Particularly when one wants, as I do, to have children.
Hiii I'm Heather, and I'm a Jersey girl lol. I work two jobs as a Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA). I volunteer for the Big Sister organization as a mentor. I am in school full-time working towards a BA in Behavioral Science then planning on continuing my education for my Master's degree in Social Work. I am also currently getting certified as a Behavior Assistant. *Check out my profile for pictures*
Wow, I've never been part of a singles blog (actually, never ANY kind of blog.) Everyone here seems so young and techno-hip. OK, here goes... I'm a single gal, 55 y/o, 5'4" tall, 135#. I love hiking, X-country skiing, cycling, etc. I live in Central Point, OR. It's a pretty small town--and quite "redneck." I love living in the country (I have a small farm and raise goats as a hobby.) But the "singles scene" is very sparse for an Atheist. Just to connect with a guy via email would be great. I work full time in a govt ofc (State Hwy) where I am the Quality Assurance Specialist (basically, I check to make sure all the paperwork is in order before we pay the contractors.) I also love to write (I have written several articles for "American Atheist" mag.) The last guy I really was attracted to--and he claimed he felt the same way--turned out to be Seventh Day Adventist. Worse yet, he's a "YEC" (Young Earth Creationist.) He ended the relationship due to my Atheism. Funny, I could accept his beliefs, but he couldn't accept my non-beliefs. Oh well. I'd love to hear from anyone out there, just to let me know there's hope.
You know, I've had the same sort of experience. Anyone I get involved with will definitely know my thoughts concerning God and God-belief, but I can tolerate it if my partner has that particular mental virus. However, the religious women I've known typically refuse to tolerate it if *their* partners are *not* religious, and won't get involved with an unbeliever. Maybe it has to do with wanting to meet their spouses in Heaven.
That's pretty much my experience, too. I could deal with some vague level of religion, but in every relationship I've had with a theist, it only took a few months before she was wondering why I didn't want to go to church with her.
Not sure how I'd deal with the Young Earth Creationist part, Carol. If someone is THAT devoid of scientific knowledge ... just, I dunno.
And I'd be worried if we ever decided to have kids. I sure as hell wouldn't want to raise my kids Christian.
Agreed on most of this... the relationships I've had have all been with religious people, simply because it's so hard to find anything else. However, for the most part, we managed to get along on that score, as long as we agreed to pretty much stay off the subject. The few discussions we did have, though, wound up largely the way you said - she was much more bothered by the fact that I DID NOT believe in imaginary beings, than I was by the fact that she DID.